This entry is one in a series that tackles issues of proper word use and grammar in English.
Have you noticed how the word “actually” has crept into more and more English sentences? It’s almost becoming the new “you know” in terms of overuse, though the latter is just a space filler. One of my New Year’s resolutions is to try stop using “actually” as much as possible. I think this is actually a good idea, you know?
Use “myself” only when you have used “I” earlier in the same sentence: “I am not particularly fond of goat cheese myself.” “I kept half the loot for myself.” All this confusion can easily be avoided if you just remove the second party from the sentences where you feel tempted to use “myself” as an object or feel nervous about “me.”
I think this last bit of advice is most useful to most people: just don’t use “myself.”